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low self-esteem
March 7, 2011 21:23
Assalamualaikum Low self-esteem. I think everyone in this earth feel it. Macam-macam perkara dalam dunia ni boleh membuatkan kita rasa macam tu. Even perkara remeh sekalipun. Aku, tak terkecualilah dalam perkara macam ni. Terlalu memikirkannya sampai kadang-kadang boleh mendatangkan effect dalam diri. Think about it. Banyak perkara yang membuatkan kita jadi macam ni… Especially student. They got more pressure because of the environment. Tak kisah lah dari segi apa pun, kawan-kawan, lecturer, assignment, presentation, anything else. Kadang-kadang, bila semua tu dah membuatkan mereka jadi low self-esteem perkara yang remeh pun boleh dijadikan issue. It’s a normal thing.  Contoh lah kan, kita tengah semangat dalam memberi sesuatu idea atau statement, tiba-tiba one of our friend gelakkan apa yang kita statekan. On that time, kita akan rasa down gila. For a moment actually but ada je yang teringat sampai bila-bila. Hello friend, kenapa mesti perlu gelakkan ea? Apa yang kelakar sangat sampai membuatkan awak tergelak? Teruk sangat ke? Apa awak boleh ke bagi statement atau idea yang lagi bombastic? Ke sebab awak hebat? 4flat ke? 4flat awak sebab bodek lecturer ke? Or meniru dalam exam. Okay, luck awak lah kan. Orang bukan heran pun.  Besides, self-hate. While there are times when we all ‘hate’ who we are, loathing your thoughts and actions is a classic sign of low self-esteem. Self-hate is characterized by feelings of anger and frustration about who you are and an inability to forgive yourself for even the smallest of mistakes. Benda ni memang semua alami kan. Saya tak terkecuali.  Sama juga dengan ni, feeling worthless. We all doubt our ability in certain areas of our lives, but a deep-rooted sense of worthlessness comes from believing that somehow we are not as valuable as others. If this sounds familiar, it’s important to understand that feeling worthy isn’t something given to us by others, but something we have to build ourselves. Bukan kadang-kadang, even selalu je saya rasa macam ni.  Anger. Anger is a normal emotion, but one that gets distorted when you have low self-esteem. When you don’t think highly of yourself, you start to believe your own thoughts and feelings aren’t important to others. Repressed hurt and anger can build up, so something seemingly small can trigger outbursts of fury.  People pleasing. This is one of the biggest problems with low self-esteem is feeling you have to please others so that they like, love and respect you. As a result many people-pleasers end up feeling aggrieved and used. One solution, if we can't change our situation or ourselves, is to change our attitude towards such things. One way to do this is to list all of the good things we can find in any situation. This may be hard at first. Perhaps someone else can help you. Keep in mind that you are partly causing yourself to feel worse. When we feel bad, we try to make ourselves feel better by blaming anything and everything around us, but that can often just make us feel worse. The worse we feel the more we feel a need to attack something, anything just to unload these negative feelings. The problem is, however, that this does not really offer a long term solution even if it provides immediate relief. You need, instead, to look at what you can do to change how you perceive things in the first place. This means finding a more positive way of viewing yourself and your situation. LIFE TEACHES US. HAPPY 7th MARCH. TODDLES :) |
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